Alyssa Johnson

Divorce to Remarriage - What to do with the Ex-Spouse

Ex-spouses are usually part of the bargain with a remarriage. It may not be your first choice, but it's a reality. Ex-spouses aren't always difficult. Unfortunately, a lot of that is out of your control. Let's take a look at some of the biggest mistak... Read >

Step Families - The New Rules to Create a Strong Step Family

"Help! I don't love my step-kids! Now what do I do?" If there's one question I get asked more than any other, this is it! Whether the couple is engaged and preparing to combine families or they are already married, this is a common fear. My reply to th... Read >

Divorce to Remarriage - What to Avoid As You Become a Step Parent

Step parenting is a fuzzy role. Most people aren't real clear what's expected of them. Today, let's focus on some hazard areas so you can be sure to avoid them. People rarely have a clue what a relationship with a step-child will be like. It's not be... Read >

Divorce to Remarriage - What Tasks Need to be Completed Before Remarriage?

Divorce and remarriage are major life changes. Because of this, the decisions need to be considered carefully. Many changes come at you in rapid succession with both. This may account for researchers finding that people who wait at least 2 years to rem... Read >

Step Family Success - This is the Most important Ingredient

In first marriages, the old saying is to put a bean in a jar every time you make love during the first year. For every year thereafter, take one out every time you make love. By the end of your marriage, it is said that the jar will finally be empty. It's... Read >

Remarriage - Why Are They a Greater Risk?

On the home page of my website I have a quote saying "Over 60% of re-marriages end in re-divorce." I frequently get asked, "Why is the divorce rate higher?" People state confusion over this because they believe that since they've been divorced once before... Read >

Divorce to Remarriage: Stop! Couple Time!

Now that you've found a new relationship after your divorce, you probably have different perspectives on what makes a good and healthy relationship. One thing that never changes is the need for time to nurture that relationship. But how are you going to... Read >

Divorce & Beyond: I'm Just So Mad!

One of the most common feelings experienced when you go through a divorce is anger. It's pretty universal whether you initiated the divorce or not. There are several reasons for this. Of course there is the rejection that's experienced when your spouse... Read >

Life After Divorce -The Absolute Best Way to Move Forward After A Divorce

I was listening to the radio today when my favorite song, "In Better Hands Now" by Natalie Grant came on. In the midst of holding one of my "car concerts" (because that's the only way I can sing without making small animals cry) I realized how appropriat... Read >

Remarriage Preparation - More Ways to Know You're Not Ready to Remarry

Remarriage and the creation of a step family are huge undertakings. They are not to be taken lightly. Allowing yourself the time to make these decisions wisely is very important. As you continue to think through whether remarriage is a good option for you... Read >

Remarriage Preparation - One Way to Know You're Not Ready to Remarry

Remarriage is a big step. If you've been divorced before, it can be extremely scary because you don't want to go through that again. But the statistics show us that 75% of people who divorce end up remarrying. Unfortunately, statistics also show us that a... Read >

Divorce & Beyond - How to Get Life Back to "Normal" After a Divorce

Divorce leads to many changes. While, I know adding something else to your already bulging "to do" list doesn't sound feasible, it's important for both you and your children to develop some sense of normalcy as quickly as possible. First of all you ne... Read >

Dating After Divorce - When Is It Too Soon to Date After a Divorce?

Making the choice to begin dating after divorce may cause lots of emotions for you. The thought can be exciting, scary, happy or even sad. But what about the feelings your kids may be having about it? One of the most important aspects to keep in mind w... Read >

Life After Divorce - Try the "F" Word if You're Still Angry!

Divorce and anger usually go hand in hand. In order to move forward with your life though, you've got to let that anger go. How? Well, let's focus on that today. It's not an easy thing. I'm well aware of that. This is probably the hardest part of mo... Read >

Life After Divorce - What you Need to Pack Up Before Your Remarriage

Preparing to remarry is a busy time. You may be excited about the prospect of a new marriage and the stability that may add to your life. You may also feel nervous about giving the whole marriage thing another shot. One of the most important things t... Read >